- Just Wait Until You Have Children of Your Own
- I Lost Everything in the Post-Natal Depression
- The Grass is Always Greener Over the Septic Tank
- If Life is a Bowl of Cherries, What Am I Doing in the Pits?
- Motherhood: The Second Oldest Profession
- When You Look Like Your Passport Photo, It’s Time to Go Home
- “Insanity is hereditary. You can catch it from your kids.”
- “My second favorite household chore is ironing. My first one being hitting my head on the top bunk bed until I faint.”
- “If a man watches three football games in a row, he should be declared legally dead.”
- “Mothers-in-law who wear a black armband to the wedding are expendable.”
- “The only reason I would take up jogging is so I could hear heavy breathing again.”
- “In general, my children refused to eat anything that hadn’t danced on TV.”
- “Seize the moment. Think of all those women on the ‘Titanic’ who waved off the dessert cart.”
- “Never loan your car to anyone to whom you’ve given birth.”
- “A child needs your love more when he deserves it least.”
- “If you can laugh at it, you can live with it.”
1. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT MOTHER.
I do not say this to drag mothers down, but to build them up. No one needs to be treated with more tenderness than our mother. Perhaps no one is more caring and conscientious than our mother. Sometimes we are too hard on them. Sometimes they are too hard on themselves. The two mothers in this story were prostitutes! Their babies were evidently conceived under sinful circumstances. Think about that for a minute.
We would all agree that the church should stand for moral purity. But the church should also stand for forgiveness and restoration! These women were not living up to God’s ideals - yet He still loved them! If any of us had to wait for God to love us based on our performance we would all be out of luck!
Here’s another LESSON ABOUT MOTHERHOOD from our story:
2. GOD HAS ANSWERS FOR A MOTHER’S PROBLEMS.
Don’t look for stress-free motherhood, because it doesn’t exist. From the pains of giving birth, to the empty nest, to grandchildren and beyond, motherhood is stressful! Once again, I do not say this to discourage anyone. There is good news! God is willing and able to assist moms in the problems they encounter.
There’s the third LESSON FOR MOTHERS that I see from this story:
3. THERE’S NOTHING THAT COMPARES TO A MOTHER’S LOVE!
The real mother in this story would rather see another woman raise her child than see him split in two. You have to be willing to give up some things to be a good mother. Personal sacrifice is a pivotal part of motherhood. It begins by them sacrificing their own bodies by carrying the child around in their womb for nine months. No mother’s child ought to get over that sacrifice! Our mothers fed us, nourished and protected us with their own bodies before we even saw the light of day. I’ve never known anyone else who loves me enough to carry me around for nine months.
But a mother’s sacrifice doesn’t end there. They keep on giving! They give up sleep for the midnight feedings. They give up personal goals to help their children achieve their goals. Ask yourself how many times you got a new outfit and mom wore the same old clothes, or how many times she gave you the last helping at supper.
We honor moms for all the giving they do. They remind us of God who is the ultimate example of sacrificial giving. He gave His only Son for a world of wayward children. That kind of love should not go unnoticed and unappreciated. We should respond to our moms with great appreciation and love, and we should respond to God who created motherhood the same way.
A. LOVE IS PATIENT – 13:4
How do we apply the truth that love is patient to the mother/child relationship? Well, our children may be intelligent, but they still do not have an adult grasp of certain concepts because they are still just kids, not adults. They are also forgetful, so we must patiently remind them of their chores, of their homework, and of the necessity of picking up their toys and clothes. When they are having fun, hours can seem like minutes; but when they are sitting still or standing in line minutes can seem like hours to them, so we must be patient as they fuss and fidget. I am not encouraging permissiveness and I do believe in discipline and responsibility, but God tells us to be patient, doesn’t He? Is God patient with His children? Does this mean that God is permissive? No! Do you think He wants us to be patient with our children? Love is patient and our patience can go a long way in demonstrating our love.
B. LOVE IS ALSO KIND – 13:4
Kindness refers to tenderness and affection. Children need kind and gentle words of love and concern and loving embraces. How often do we tell our children we love them? How often do we praise their efforts? How often do we tell them we appreciate them? Do we spend more time criticizing them and showing irritation with their actions and attitudes than praising them? How often do we hug, kiss or embrace our kids? Touch is so important. In the OT a father always made physical contact with his children when he gave them his blessing.
A mother should be polite and courteous to her children, just as she is to other people. We expect our children to say “please,” “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “I’m sorry,” but do we treat them with the same consideration? We don’t want our children to interrupt us when we are talking but we think nothing of interrupting them. We know that bad language and saying “shut up” shows disrespect, so why do we sometimes use such terms with our children? We want our children to share food, toys, etc. but how many times do we guard our own possessions from our children’s touch or use? We must be alert to how we are treating our children and determine to be polite and courteous to them just as we expect them to be to us and others.
D. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORDS OF WRONG – 13:5
E. LOVE REJOICES IN TRUTH – 13:6
F. FINALLY, LOVE BELIEVES AND HOPES ALL THINGS – 13:7
- Some of you did not have the kind of loving, nurturing mother that we have talked about today and you still grieve over that. Maybe your mom wasn’t the greatest mother and you still carry the emotional scars. If you are one of those people, just remember that we need to forgive others the way Christ forgives us, and then move on. We can’t fix the past. We can only change the present and future.
- Some of you may be feeling pain today because you miss your mom. That’s my case. I still miss my mom even though she been gone for 5½ years. I still haven’t gotten over her tragic death. So all I can do today is give thanks to God for the years that I had with her and for the certainty that I will see her again one day in Heaven.
- And some of you may be feeling pain today because of distance from your children, geographical distance, or emotional distance. Estrangement from your children is especially painful on days like this. All I can say is that God understands, and He can fill in that gap and give you peace in spite of the fact that you may not hear from your children today. In that case, let God the Father parent you. Let Him comfort and hold you in His strong arms, and let Him remind you that He knows what it is like to be rejected by those He loves. He is no stranger to that kind of pain.